"Am I doing the right thing?"
“ Will I be able to succeed by giving up my current job and moving on to developing my own project?”
“Should I put in extra effort?”
Let us face the truth: we regularly ask ourselves questions that cause us to doubt our own capacity for self-improvement.
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In the very nature of people, there is a desire to maintain the status quo by any means. Evolution says: generations of our ancestors survived in harsh conditions, because, above all, they sought shelter and protection. But even now, when we rarely have to worry about such physical security, our consciousness has not changed much. We are programmed to protect the status quo, and the mind performs rational work, keeping us in place, even if we are trying
to achieve something new .
In my environment, I watched many people who suffered from such self-doubt.
My best friend for more than two decades was unhappy in love and tolerated a disgusting attitude from her partners.
Daniel, a friend I met at the conference last month, for years has thoughtlessly and carelessly gained weight.
I have always followed someone else's advice on high school and high-paying work, and as a result I developed someone’s business instead of working on my own.
Did something like this happen to you? We do this when we fear that we will not be able to improve our own situation; when you are sure: everything is as it should be; when we cannot explore something better that appears in our life.
If our mind is programmed to maintain the status quo, create doubts and
fear of change , how to correct this "firmware"? How to “flip the switch” in the brain and turn harmful questions into useful ones?
Ask yourself a new question - more successful
I really believe in the power of questions. A suggestive question can change life much more thoroughly than any obvious answer. That is why I created a whole mobile application based on asking interesting questions, extracting a multitude of thoughts and thoughtful answers.
But there is one main question that I propose to ask myself everything. In most cases, it takes a few seconds to think. If you are not ready to answer it, come back to this later. And if you are ready, then your life can change forever.
The question is:
Do I deserve better?
To some extent, we are all guilty of having less than we deserve.
I gave you several examples of how doubts and the fear of change can lock us up in current situations, even if they are harmful to us. Now let me tell you how events unfolded after each of the characters had a question about what he (a) deserves.
The father of my best friend once told her: "I raised you so that you could get the best from life." This transformed her worldview, and her personal life changed for the better.
My friend Daniel reached the handle when he was unable to run 5 km and had difficulty developing his own business. Knowing that he deserves better, he spent the coach to help him lose 30 kg.
I left work (and a few months later transformed my enterprise) when I realized that I was not as free as I would have liked.
If you ask yourself what you deserve in life: in your career, relationships, health - in everything, will the answer be appropriate for your current situation?
Finding out in yourself what you deserve, you get a clearer concept of where you want to go - the goals of your path. Having presented your destination, it is much easier to understand what you need to do to achieve it - and see your own road.
I hope this extremely simple question will open your eyes and life towards all the magnificence that you have always dreamed of.
I would like to know: Has the concept of what you deserve could change some part of your life?
PS We recommend another article on the topic -
How to become hardy: 8 steps to success in defiance of difficulties .
Translated by Vyacheslav Davidenko, founder of
MBA Consult .