Twelve ways to stop treating yourself too harshly.

Regardless of whether you start working on a new startup, or are expanding an existing company, you will inevitably make mistakes, and this will hit your self-esteem very hard. We usually ask ourselves much more strictly from ourselves than from other people. Sometimes you yourself can be your own worst enemy . It is necessary to learn to recognize cases where you treat yourself unfairly, and throw away negative thoughts. How?
From time to time you may not be able to do something. It's unavoidable. But how will this fact affect you?

In difficult periods of life, many of us often fall into psychological traps, such as negative internal dialogue — when a person convinces himself of something that prevents him from achieving success.
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“It will not work under any circumstances” or: “It is impossible”…. And also: “I’m not able to do that at all!”
Do not be so demanding of yourself!

It is necessary to learn to recognize cases where you treat yourself unfairly, and throw away negative thoughts.
How?

Do you compare yourself with other people? Do you tend to hide or suppress your anger? Are you trying to do everything alone, without any support?

Stop!

Below you can see an infographic from Anna Vital, where you can find 12 simple and inspiring ideas, thanks to which you will no longer treat yourself too strictly.

Here are 12 of her very helpful tips:

1. Mistakes are part of the learning process . Do not allow failures to deprive you of mental balance.

2. Do not compare yourself with other people, because you are not them. Every person is special, so accept yourself as you are, with all the flaws.

3. There is no perfect way to do anything. Do not limit your thinking, dividing everything into right and wrong - there are no right ways to do something wrong, just as there are no wrong ways to do something right!

4. Stick to your beliefs , even if other people don’t like it. Make everyone else understand your big and crazy ideas.

5. Learn from those who criticize you. Don't let criticism knock you off track; It should inspire and make it work even better!

6. Treat your weaknesses simply as “features.” Not everything that you do turns out to be perfect, but this is so for everyone!

7. Look at your past as an interesting story full of adventurous life. A person's past is not an indicator of his personality and does not define his fate as an entrepreneur.

8. Don't downplay your abilities until you use them 100 times. Do you use your innate talents?

9. Any of your concerns are not unique. Just take a look at the problems from the side, it will help to deal with them faster.

10. Relative is the intelligence of man, but not his self-esteem. Stay positive, take care of yourself, do not try to become perfect in everything, but try to constantly evolve.

11. Find a creative way to release your anger. If you feel angry, release your anger and learn a lesson from it.

12. Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed. If you have someone you trust and who you can rely on, you will be happier and your self-confidence will increase significantly.

Looked at the picture?

And now start living by these rules!

PS We recommend another useful article on the work on yourself - 30 websites that will make you much more educated .

The author of the translation is Vyacheslav Davidenko, the founder of the TESTutor company.